Kwame is not alone...

Kwame and his friend "J"

Kwame has been in the adoption center for over a year now. The way our timing went and because some things took us longer than other families, Kwame has seen friends come in and go to America. Even several kids that came after him left earlier.

Kwame has had one friend that has been there with him pretty much the entire time. The same week we received the referral of Kwame, J also found his family. While we seemed to get stuck along the way each step, J kept moving along and it seemed he would go home long before Kwame did. God must have had another plan though because Kwame's adoption timeline caught up to J. Then our family and J's family ended up waiting together for the boys passports for months.

In the time we have waited and prayed for our boys together, we have become friends. J's family lives in Oregon. They are a wonderful, wonderful couple and we are looking forward to keeping our boys in touch with each other. We have even talked about the dads meeting up with the boys and taking them to a baseball game together. We are sorry that their adoption has also taken much longer than they ever anticipated too. If it was God's plan for both of these boys to wait a little longer to come home, I find comfort in knowing our boys were not alone and have been together the last year.

We were so excited that our family and J's family got the news that the boys received their passports on the same day and we were excited and hoped that maybe we would end up in Ghana together picking up the boys.

We both had a little set back that makes it appear that we may not travel at the same time after all. They are still working on getting their set back fixed as we are also waiting for the visa pick up date for Kwame.

We would appreciate any prayers that both of our boys get to come home at the same time and that that time is next week. It would be so wonderful and comforting for the boys to get to go home at the same time as they have been together on this journey to finding their forever family together...

Seven days!!!

Seven days and counting...
Donations and offers of donations are coming in and we are getting closer to having things fall into place so TR and Kman can actually leave next Wed!

TR mailed the visa for him and Kman on Monday to Washington DC and is will arrive back tomorrow! How is that for quick? Of course we paid about $100 in postage there and back but at least it was worth it and we are getting it in time!

Kman is collecting soccer jerseys and will purchase some soccer balls in Ghana as he wants to give them out at a few orphanages. His soccer club as well as a local High School have really spread the word and it sounds like he will have enough to hand out!

Kman's orthodontist, Dr Matt Jones is donating toothbrushes, toothpaste and dental floss. We are thrilled to pick it up tomorrow as it will be enough to help all the children at the orphange we are making a donation at!

We have been especially blessed by TR's workplace. While some people knew about his adoption, after consideration he decided to send out an email to his entire workplace and we have been blessed by their support and encouragement.

We are so excited not only to be going to get our son but to be able to once again help others when we are there. For those that know us, you know how important it is for us to not only adopt but to do something to help some of the other orphans in Ghana. Thank you so much for helping us to help them!

Eight more days...

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...so now can you understand how we can have fallen in love with a child we have not met yet?

Getting ready to leave... and helping us help others...

This is the first picture I have of our son from September 2008...
Here is one of the most recent I have of him as another visiting mom reads him a letter we wrote him...

We are so excited as we are getting ready to head to Ghana to get Kwame. We have purchased our tickets and are just waiting to hear our visa pick up date. Once we have that date which will hopefully be in the next few weeks, we will know if we can actually leave or if we have to change our flights. We are hopeful we get to fly out as scheduled...
I have been crazy busy around the house nesting. We had a garage sale today which helped us make a little money to help with costs once in Ghana. The boys room is almost ready. I tore it apart and am almost done putting it back together.
I am so thrilled as TR will bring out the suitcases tonight so I can pack Kwame's things and start getting donations ready.
As I did last year when we went to Ghana, I added a donate button on the sidebar for those that want to help us help those in Ghana. Last year, we collected over $3500 in money so that we could do some different projects when I was there. To read about what I did with that money, go here. If you visit the post, summarizes our projects but links you to the individual posts that go into detail on each of the donations made.
TR and Kman will be going to Ghana and hope to be able to do a few things when they are there to make a difference for those in Ghana. I have some ideas of what we would like to do and am very excited. This year our personal finances are much tighter (as this is our second adoption in two years) and so in advance we want to thank those of you inspired to help us help others. All of the money you donate will go directly towards helping others as we did last year.
As plans fall into place, I will update the blog and plan to update throughout TR and Kman's trip so check back in with us! Woo Hoo, our son is coming home!!!

Praise God, We have a Passport!!

We received the fabulous news this morning that our son now has a passport! We are thrilled beyond belief and I took one minute to celebrate before I moved on to planning for the next steps!
We just now need the visa and then TR and Kman can go to Ghana to bring Kwame home! We are hoping to have him home in the next month!
I am so excited to have so much to do to get ready for Kwame's arrival!
We are so thankful that our time has come and that our son will be coming home...

Stay tuned because now it really gets fun

As Dora would say.... We Did It!!

We did it!! Five days and over 20 hours later, Selina's braids are done!! I had no idea when I started on Sunday if she would even let me do braids again. We did them in April but I did most of it while she slept, staying up until 3 or 4am two days in a row.

After over a year of disliking having her hair combed, braided or touched the majority of the time, she sat down for 20 waking hours and let me braid her hair!
We did about nine hours on Sunday alone and then every day this week, we sat down as soon as we got home from school and work and braided until bedtime. It usually would not take that long but I used really small pieces of hair and did about double the braids I did last time. I think they look better now than they did last time but I am interested to see how they last and look over time. This time I also did two knots to hold the beads in place at the bottom instead of one as I found last time that as the braid got older, the knot got smaller and sometimes the beads would fall right out.

Selina usually does not like having her hair combed and does not have much tolerance for having it done. I think this is partly because when she was younger, she had her hair done while she screamed sometimes and so it was kind of traumatic for her and I also think she is extra sensitive on certain parts of her head.

My recommendation to other adoptive moms regarding hair if you are having some of the difficulties we have faced would be the following...
1. Make hair time fun. We watched movies, sang songs, had snacks and laughed a lot. For your own sanity, I would not recommend the 30 episodes of Dora that we watched but Selina did best with Dora. If I turned something else on, she was not happy so Dora it was!
2. Do a little at a time at the beginning. If you don't finish in one session, it is okay. Selina could not handle too much and so we would stop when she got tired of having her hair done so that our experience was positive.
3. If you can get together with others and have a hair party, try it. That helped us a lot. When she first came home, I went to several gatherings of a local adoption group I belong to where we got together to do our kids hair. Sometimes Selina and I just went to hang out and I would just comb her hair and let her see that doing hair is fun! We also would go hang out with Rita and Racheal as they got their hair done or go visit them and see their hair if they had it done in a new style.
4. Consider the hairstyle you do. If I am putting things in Selina's hair, puffs and things where I am not manipulating her hair as much works best. The braids while taking longer are much better than cornrows or twists where you are doing something where you keep grabbing and tightening hair. For the braids, once I got started, she did not feel it at all because I was done touching her hair. So for her, 20 hours of braiding is more desirable than two or three hours of cornrows.

We have slowly eased into this the past 16 months and I have not stressed out about it. I figured that she would do better with time and as she got older. I have to laugh as when we got home today, she started pulling me over to the area where we braid her hair and asked for Dora. She wanted more braids! I don't know how she is going to react tomorrow when she doesn't get all of mom's attention or watch all the Dora she wants!

I have to say that I think that Selina was truly happy to have her hair done. Tonight we laid down together as she went to bed and she was just beaming and she kept saying, "I love you mommy" "Thank you mommmy!" "We did it!"

I hope this is a new beginning for us...and hair time will be less hairy in the future!

Third time is the charm?!!

Here is Kwame receiving a letter from us. He really enjoys reading them.



I have had a few people email me privately so I wanted to update you all that the passport process was started again for the third time on Monday for Kwame. We are hopeful that we will get a passport next week as we have had good luck in our agency with passports going through lately. If we do, then the visa can be filed the following week hopefully. Our visa will take a little longer since they have to do the orphan investigation still but even with that, we are hopeful it will take maybe two weeks. This means we could look at travel as early as the end of October.

It has been a long several months with every wait being for something that is supposed to come "next week". I am optimistic and have decided that I am going to believe this will happen at the risk of being disappointed. If I don't believe it will happen and have faith, who will, right?

We would appreciate any prayers you can spare. I have gone through a rough few weeks where I was very frustrated and upset about several things and was allowing it to show instead of keeping it to myself, praying about it and moving on. I am so grateful for all of my adoption friends who listened, understood I was just having a bad week. They brought me out of it and encouraged me to ask for prayer.

I do believe that prayer helps- Just a week or so ago, we were blessed by the prayers of one parent and her daughter when they were in Ghana. I had hoped it would have helped our passports come out but instead it basically shut the door and gave some clear signs that we were to start again. If that had not happened, we could have been sitting here in limbo as we kept jumping through hurdles as our adoption staff in Ghana worked to meet different requests of the particular passport person that was walking my passport through.

So we have a fresh start and I am more hopeful than I have been in the past few months that this will be it and we will meet our son very soon!

My recent post on a portion of the show The Office, called Parkour has really helped. It is a term that means you take the most creative route from point A to point B instead of going in a straight line. That is what this adoption has been for us. For some reason, seeing the clip on this and linking it to my adoption has made me laugh and has helped me through. I know this adoption journey will end, our son will come home and I will have many stories of the interesting and creative things done in our adoption along that way. I just have to hang in there until I get to point B!

Thank you to those that have checked in with me and who have met and loved Kwame as he waits for us. We are blessed to have such wonderful friends and family!

Parkour my friends!!