Looking For The Needle In the Haystack...

I am a comoderator of a yahoo group, AdoptingfromGhana with Ginny, a fellow adoptive mom. AFG is a group of people that come together to learn about the process to adopt from Ghana and is a fabulous place where we can share our adoption journeys, ask questions and support each other. I LOVE our group and how kind the people in the group are. I am a member of many yahoo groups and ours is my favorite by far. I feel I have many friends in AFG, and have spoken to or communicated with many people in our group and have enjoyed getting to know these awesome people.

Ginny and I were approached by an adoption agency asking us to help get the word out about a sweet baby girl that desperately needs a home. The email I have been asked to share, reads as follows.

We have a special needs baby girl in Ghana that needs an adoptive family. This child has a chronic immune system disorder, low vision, and was premature. She is currently developmentally delayed. Her long-term outcome is not known, although she has made huge strides since she came into loving care 5 months ago.

The family who adopts this baby girl will need to be prepared for a longer than usual (and possibly more complicated) adoption process in Ghana. The baby's history makes her case unique from most international adoptions in Ghana. The agency may be able to gain approval for a family who would normally fall outside the lines of family eligibility (older than 50, more than 6 children, etc.).

The agency that is working with Social Welfare to place this child for adoption is seeking a family who is already homestudy approved, in process, or can become approved quickly. If you might be that family, please respond to the moderators privately and they will give you the agency's contact information.


A little more detailed information was shared with Ginny and I about this little girl and I have to tell you that it immediately brought tears to my eyes because this little girl reminded me of my Selina.

As most of you know, Selina came into care at our adoption center in pretty bad shape. She was 18 mos but could not walk at all, in fact it was suggested she may have cerebal palsy. Additionally she had not one word, was considered by doctors to have a central nervous system disorder and so on and so forth. Her medicals were kind of scary.... BUT

There are some children out there that are meant to live. Children that made it to this point by no less than a miracle and are survivors. Many other children in the same situation as these girls would have died but my Selina lived and this little girl lives.

Sometimes love, a family and good medical attention can make all the difference in the world- especially to a child who has already beaten so many odds. Selina is a testament to that. Today she thrives and has overcome every obstacle in her way and is left at this time with only a very mild articulation disorder.

While this sweet baby girl has different medical diagnosis and concerns than Selina, I recognized the same beautiful spirit in her story as I did when I first heard about Selina.

I am sharing information about this baby girl in case her mother or father is reading this now. If you meet the criteria listed above and want to find out more information about this little girl, email me at arizonadavidson at yahoodotcom and I will put you in touch with the agency looking for a home for this little angel.

If you want to find out more but are nervous, it is alright to ask. Wanting to hear more information about her is not commiting to being her parent, it is opening your heart to the possibility.

With Selina, I saw a picture of her when she first came into care. I knew when I looked in her eyes that she was special, she was strong and she was a survivor. I did not know at first she was to be our daughter but she was always in my heart and on my mind. As it worked out she was meant to be a part of our family and we have been blessed by her.

For some children waiting to be adopted, there is a line. A line of parents waiting to parent that very desirable child. Maybe the child is a helthy infant, a beautiful toddler or a strong and smart older child.

For other children waiting to be adopted, there is a haystack and in that haystack is a needle. The one family who sees or hears about that child and wants to know more. That family may know that child is theirs right away or maybe they have to pray over the possibility. So they ask questions, read articles, talk to doctors and specialists and as they learn more and pray more, they start to feel comfortable and get excited about the possibility of adopting that child. They start to recognize the potential that child has and see the beauty of her imperfections until they want more than anything to love that child...

Are you that needle in her haystack or do you know who her parent may be?


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